Przemek's Story

This was my third attempt at therapy. Previously, I had the feeling that therapists didn’t understand me — especially intellectually. If I felt a lack of intellectual connection, I knew I wouldn’t listen. This time, I was brought to therapy by a crisis and a toxic relationship I was in. The girl I was with recommended Regina, which already made me distant toward her from the start. I thought: “If she recommends her, then probably not.”
And yet I went. Why did my rational mind trust the therapist?

I was afraid that as someone with a PhD from a technical university, rational and strongly rooted in logic, I would very quickly “bounce off.” But Regina surprised me — I “bought it,” because she is very grounded in reality and made a strong impression on me. Her way of speaking was concrete and intellectually structured. That allowed me to enter the process, even though I walked into the office with a lot of reservation.

Before, I had seen two therapists and felt that there was a huge gap — they completely missed my way of thinking. But Regina has the ability to truly understand a man’s point of view.

Emotions, oversensitivity, and a tangle of family patterns

The main problems I came with were not limited only to relationships. In the background were family issues, my oversensitivity, emotions I couldn’t manage, and the fact that I often didn’t understand what was happening to me when something triggered me. I didn’t have high hopes for therapy, but I stayed for a long time.

At some point, the therapeutic relationship turned into something closer to mentoring. Now I’m at a different stage — I come once every three months, more for supervision. I feel great with myself, but I am still looking for something “extra.”

Separating personal life from professional life

The most important effect of therapy, which I noticed at the beginning, was separating my personal life from my professional life. I stopped transferring my emotional states into my work. As a musician and producer working in a chaotic artistic environment, this was extremely important for me. Before, everything was mixed together. Now I know that professionalism means the ability to “not take yourself” to work.

I don’t know how it happened, because Regina doesn’t give ready-made answers — she asks questions that lead to your own conclusions. She shows the way so that you can find the answer yourself. Self-discovery was a very fluid process for me.

Stability instead of extremes — a new quality of my life

Therapy gives you a better life, but it can also change your life to the extent that it becomes a completely different life. A different life also means different people you attract. People who previously found you interesting suddenly stop being interested, because you get rid of your dysfunctions.

Therapy made me get to know myself; my life became more grounded in reality, more stable — I understood that overthinking and oversensitivity are destructive. The amplitude of my emotions is smaller today.

It’s a better life, but at the same time a more difficult one. The nature of my work means that I constantly meet people who function in very intense emotional states. These are often extremely creative and sensitive individuals, but struggling with large emotional swings. I have to understand them, work with them, accompany them in the creative process, and at the same time remain grounded myself.

In the past, I completely identified with this. Today, I am still part of this environment, but I have more distance and can look at everything more objectively. It’s not easy, but necessary.

Relationships after therapy: red flags, selection, and more mature choices

Therapy also changed the way I see relationships. I never had a problem finding a woman, but they were always dysfunctional women. Now I see the red flags immediately, and sometimes I feel like I live on a different planet, because these dysfunctions are very visible to me.

I probably still have things to work on myself, but today it looks different — I have fewer relationships, but they are more conscious and healthier. And I know that this is what is best for me.

Someone once said that you won’t be able to love someone until you learn to love yourself first. And that keeps me believing that sooner or later I will find the right person.

The sentence from Regina that I remembered the most is this:
“Fire needs oxygen, but if you give it too much or pour gasoline on it — it explodes.”
It’s a metaphor for a healthy relationship — it’s about stability, care, and tending to the fire, not constant explosions.

Therapy didn’t just give me a better life — it gave me a completely new life.
And although I am still working a lot on myself, I feel that I truly know who I am and what I want.